As we continue our journey through the Ten Commandments, we have explored various facets of God’s moral law and its relevance to our lives today. From the command to honor our parents to the prohibition against stealing, each commandment not only shapes our ethical behavior but also points us to the deeper principles of God's holiness. Today, we turn our attention to the Seventh Commandment: "Thou shalt not commit adultery" (Exodus 20:14). This commandment, straightforward in its wording, addresses the sanctity of marriage and the destructive nature of infidelity.
In our modern world, infidelity is increasingly normalized, not just in secular culture but disturbingly within the church as well. A 2014 survey by Ashley Madison, a dating website designed to facilitate infidelity, revealed that a significant portion of its users identified as “born again” evangelical Christians. This alarming statistic highlights the gap between our values and our practices. The command against adultery is more relevant than ever as we grapple with a culture that often undermines the sacred bond of marriage.
The Heart of the Matter: Jesus' Teaching on Adultery
Jesus expands on the commandment in Matthew 5:27-28, saying:
“Ye have heard that it was said of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
Jesus’ teaching reveals that the issue of adultery goes beyond the physical act; it begins in the heart. He emphasizes that even harboring lustful thoughts is equivalent to committing adultery in one’s heart. This underscores the importance of guarding our thoughts and hearts, as sin often starts with our inner desires.
I. It Starts with a Thought
Our thoughts are powerful and can easily lead us astray if not kept in check. Proverbs 4:23 advises us to:
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Just as a computer processes the input it receives, our minds will process what we feed them. It’s essential to be mindful of what we consume—whether it’s media, literature, or other influences. As Peter instructs, we must "gird up the loins of our mind" and be prepared to battle against sinful thoughts, relying on God’s grace (1 Peter 1:13).
II. It Continues with Lust
When lustful thoughts are entertained, they lead to deeper desires and potential actions. Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:28 highlight that lust in the heart is already a form of adultery. This is not limited to men; women also face similar temptations. With the pervasive availability of pornography and seductive media, both men and women are at risk. We must be vigilant against these influences and recognize that lust, even when hidden, can have devastating effects.
III. It Culminates in an Act
When unchecked, lust can manifest in actions that break the commandments and damage relationships. As Jesus explains, what begins in the heart eventually surfaces in our behavior. Adultery, whether physical or emotional, destroys trust and harms not just individuals but entire families and communities. The heart's corruption leads to a deterioration of our relationships and testimonies.
IV. It Ends in Death
James 1:15 warns us that sin, when it is finished, brings forth death. Infidelity is not a victimless crime; it devastates families, ministries, and personal integrity. The ripple effects of such sin can last a lifetime, affecting children and relationships in profound ways. It is crucial to understand the gravity of this commandment and its implications for our lives and those around us.
Practical Steps to Avoid Infidelity
A. Establish Accountability
Having someone to hold you accountable can be a powerful deterrent against sin. Share your struggles with a trusted friend or counselor, and maintain transparency in your relationships.
B. Create Rules with Purpose
Establish personal boundaries to protect yourself from temptation. Billy Graham’s rule of never meeting alone with a woman other than his wife is an example of setting boundaries to avoid compromising situations.
C. Replace Evil with Righteousness
Rather than simply avoiding sinful behavior, actively pursue righteousness. Fill your mind and life with positive influences and activities that honor God.
The Seventh Commandment is not merely a prohibition but a call to uphold the sanctity of marriage and personal integrity. Jesus’ teaching reveals that the roots of adultery lie in our hearts, and unchecked desires can lead to serious consequences. By guarding our thoughts, establishing accountability, and pursuing righteousness, we can honor this commandment and protect the relationships that God has entrusted to us. Let us strive to live in a way that reflects God’s love and faithfulness, avoiding the pitfalls of sin and embracing His grace in our journey toward purity.